Depression counseling, Anxiety counseling, Anger management counseling, Grief counseling, Stress counseling, Self-esteem counseling, Couples counseling, Trauma and Crisis Management, Conflict resolution counseling.
Most people visit a counselor at least once in their lives, for different reasons. The following are four common reasons people use counseling services.
1. Difficult Life Events
Some people seek counseling because they have experienced a stressful or traumatic life event, and speaking with a counselor helps them process the situation:
• Death of a loved one
• Job loss
• Diagnosis of a serious physical or terminal illness for self or loved one.
2. Mental Health Issues or Challenges
Counseling is an excellent way for people with mental health problems to work through their symptoms in a supportive, non-judgemental environment.
3. Life Transitions or Decisions
People who are in periods of transition in their lives can benefit from counseling:
• Starting a new career
• Becoming a parent
Counselors can be very helpful in providing a balanced or objective perspective.
Some people seek counseling for self-discovery and self-improvement because it can provide a good opportunity for a person to reflect on past experiences and further explore their feelings and values in a healthy, empowering manner.
However, not all clients benefit from counseling or therapy. Clients who have made the most progress, have some distinguishing characteristics in terms of their behaviors and attitudes:
A. They are specific about what goals they want to achieve in counseling. Counselling works better if clients have clearly defined goals.
B. They are ready to do some work in sessions and between sessions too (homework). In highly religious environments like Nigeria, my experience is that people relinquish responsibility to 'prayer'. The truth is that along with prayer one must also be ready to do the mind work too. Making progress in counseling is similar to making progress in other areas of life such as a job, a sport or other endeavor—being able to consistently work at learning and applying skills will lead to progress.
C. They focus on the process goals
Process goals are those actions that are within your control, which by doing them, are most likely to lead to top performance. Clients who don’t focus on ‘doing the work’ and instead become preoccupied with discussions of their progress, do not make as much progress.
D. Focus on yourself and not on others
Clients who focus on what they can do to address their issues make better progress than clients who focus on what others are doing or what others should be doing to make the situation better for them.
E. Be willing to try new ideas and skills
F. Don't go to the session just to vent and ruminate. Focus on specific actions and solving problems. Some people just want to keep going over the problem.
G. Have realistic and positive expectations for your counseling sessions
Our beliefs and expectations are powerful and they determine our outcomes too.
When we have unrealistic or negative expectations about the sessions, it makes it less likely that we will get the benefits of the sessions.
H. Be specific about your issues
This involves working with your counselor or therapist to identify the individual elements contributing to your distress and then taking the necessary action to address these elements.
I. Progress may not always happen the way we expect
Sometimes you may still struggle, that is not enough to discount all the progress you have made so far. It is still progress
J. Engage your support network
Having a support network is more helpful than 'going solo'. Clients who involve supportive others in their counseling are more likely to make progress. This can include having them present in some of your sessions or/and having them hold you accountable to achieve the goals you set.
Potential Benefits of Counseling
The counseling process is, in many ways, like an educational experience. Here are some examples of the benefits that you can get from counseling:
You get relief from depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions
You increase your confidence and decision-making skills
You develop the ability to manage stress effectively
You improve problem-solving and conflict resolution abilities
You improve communication and interpersonal skills
You improve your self-acceptance and self-esteem
You develop the ability to change self-defeating behaviors/habits
You start practicing emotional hygiene; better expression and management of emotions, including anger
You are able to manage and even resolve past trauma
These gains are transferable and go beyond the specific issue that brought the individual into counseling. In most cases, the new skills apply to other areas of the clients life and help to provide a better quality of life and higher productivity.
If any of these fit . . .then, you should be talking to us. . .
Fear, Worry, Anxiety
I am always worried and afraid something will happen. I feel as if I don’t have the right to be happy
In all areas of my life, my performance has declined. I can’t seem to perform the way I used to and I don’t know why.
I Feel Unheard
My partner does not hear me. I feel as if we live separate lives. I want my marriage to be better
I have low energy and no motivation
My energy is low.
I’m always tired.
I don’t sleep well.
I have no passion for life
I am Stressed out from my Jealousy
I am always suspicious of my partner. I feel he/she will leave me and go with someone else. No matter the reassurance I still feel insecure
Team-Work and Productivity has Declined
The team recently had some trauma and work is affected. Productivity has dropped sharply and there is conflict.
I Feel Lost
I do not know my mission. I don’t know my passion. I feel like I am just drifting. I know I am not happy with my life but I do not know what to do
I Can't Move Forward
I live in the past
I cant let go
I regret the things that happened
I feel guilty and ashamed
I Hate My Work
I don’t like my job. I don’t see the purpose of it. I feel stuck and I am not motivated
Patterns that Repeat
I observe generational transference in my family. I am worried and afraid that it will affect me too
Armed robbers attacked me and now I am always afraid. I am not sleeping well, I am afraid of the dark, I am afraid of sudden noises, I am afraid of crowds. I am just afraid.
I am Grieving and I do not know how to stop
I lost somebody. How could this happen? I feel numb as if I am dead too. I don’t know how to move on. It’s not right to move on
Angry Every time.
It is as if I am always angry. When I speak in anger I say all sorts of things that I later regret and yet I keep doing it. It is affecting all my relationships even with my children
I Struggle with Self Acceptance
I am always self conscious and ill at ease. I feel I am not good enough or I will make a mistake and people will stop liking me.
Our Enterprise Counseling Solutions:
Specific Incident Counseling (SIC) Bereavement, Armed Robbery, Kidnapping, Downsizing, COVID-19, etc. This includes a presentation and a discussion forum for venting before the presentation or after.
Counseling clinics (whole day or week). Includes a back-to-office report
Organization Membership Plan: A combination (bundle) of services including counseling, for a specific number of staff
Retainership: Monthly retainers that allow staff access to online counseling